| Do you believe there is an amazing partner | | | | about a guy's after-shave so make sure you |
| out there for you? Or do you believe that | | | | stock up on the CK1! |
| you've already met your prefect paramour and | | | | |
| all you've got to do is navigate the choppy | | | | FOR GIRLS... |
| waters of that all important first date to | | | | |
| get the show on the road? I live in the | | | | 1) Wait for a guy to ask you out - this may |
| centre of the universe (London) but the rules | | | | sound old fashioned but men love the chase, |
| of the dating game are the same wherever you | | | | allow yourself to be pursued and enjoy it. |
| live, and if you follow my tips and advice, | | | | |
| then it's a game that you're going to win. | | | | 2) Allow him to book a table, open doors, pay |
| | | | you compliments, pay for the meal etc; give |
| FOR GUYS... | | | | him control of the first date! |
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| 1) Be confident (and if you don't feel | | | | 3) Be happy and be the type of person that |
| confident - act it!) - women love confidence | | | | men want to be with; radiate good energy, |
| in a man, they find this incredibly sexy. | | | | smile and your date will be all the more |
| | | | entranced. |
| 2) Take charge and revel in your masculine | | | | |
| energy; ladies love to relax on dates knowing | | | | 4) Approach the date with the aim of having |
| that you have organised all the details. It's | | | | fun; forget about whether he is Mr Right and |
| up to you to decide where to go, book a table | | | | focus on just enjoying yourself and having a |
| etc. | | | | good time. |
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| 3) Ask her questions about herself that allow | | | | 5) Compliment a man, the things he is doing |
| her to open up; listen intently and make | | | | for you, the choice of meal etc - men love |
| sure you nod, um and arrhhh in all the right | | | | this. |
| places. | | | | |
| | | | 6) Take an interest in HIS interests. Don't |
| 4) If you really the girs, take her flowers | | | | just talk about yourself and what you like to |
| on the first date (the bigger the bunch the | | | | do. |
| more points you score!) Women love romance so | | | | |
| if you can romance a lady, then you're | | | | 7) Don't mention your 'ex'! There'll come a |
| already at first base. | | | | time in any relationship when both of you |
| | | | will talk about your past relationships. |
| 5) Be attentive to her needs, make sure she | | | | Unless the guy specifically brings up the |
| is not too hot/ cold, that she has a drink | | | | subject, a first date really isn't the time. |
| etc; women notice small details like that. | | | | |
| | | | 8) Turn your mobile 'phone off. If you're |
| 6) Look at her as much as you can (no ogling | | | | taking calls from your friends or reading |
| though!); women love attention and they like | | | | texts, your date will soon lose interest. |
| to feel like they are being admired. | | | | Only keep your phone switched on if you're |
| | | | expecting a VERY important call. |
| 7) If you can afford it, pay for her on the | | | | |
| first date. You don't have to go anywhere | | | | 9) If the guy has invited you out for a meal, |
| expensive - a local gastro-pub will do. But | | | | be careful how much you spend on his credit |
| don't come across a bit of a meanie as first | | | | card. You don't necessarily have to choose |
| impressions last. | | | | the cheapest items on the menu, but don't |
| | | | order lobster and Champagne either. If a man |
| 8) Take her somewhere on a first date that | | | | invites you out for dinner on a first date, |
| encourages conversation - perhaps for meal | | | | don't use it as an excuse to indulge yourself |
| and a nice glass of wine - but in a bar or | | | | in a way that you wouldn't do if you were |
| restaurant that isn't too noisy. Remember, if | | | | paying for yourself. |
| you go somewhere like the cinema or a | | | | |
| football match, then you wont be able to chat | | | | 10) Say thank you - in fact you should say it |
| and get to know each other. | | | | twice; at the end of the date as you're |
| | | | saying goodnight and then either in a |
| 9) Women always look at shoes, be sure yours | | | | follow-up 'phone call or by text message the |
| reflect the right image! | | | | next day. Even if you don't want to see him |
| | | | again (in which case, thank him by text!), |
| 10) A great smell can make a lasting | | | | you don't want to give him the impression |
| impression. I have often heard women talk | | | | that you have no manners. |