Writing a Memoir: Should You Do It?

With the tremendous success of such memoirs asbook's flap and be intrigued? Or would the words "Oh,
Frank McCourt's "Angela's Ashes," Mary Karr's "Theit's another person who..." enter your mind? Jaded and
Liar's Club," and Dave Eggers's "A Heartbreakinginsensitive as it may seem, agents discard query
Work of Staggering Genius," the 1990s and earlyletters all the time uttering the words "another victim of
2000s saw an explosion in the genre. The boom wasabuse" or "another recovering alcoholic" or "another
seen in the number of memoirs acquired by publishers,cancer survivor."
the number of titles shelved in the memoir section inThat's not to say that if you fall into one of those
bookstores, and, as a result, the number of memoirscategories, or another that encompasses a lot of
unfolding on writers' computer screens across thepeople and has seen a lot of memoirs published, you
country. But the brutal truth is that without a few crucialshould abandon yours. But you need to bring
elements, your memoir will have no chance of finding asomething new to the table, whether the experience
literary agent's representation, never mind becoming aitself is different from everyone else's or the way you
bestseller.tell it is. And, unless you've led a truly wacky life, more
It might help to consider a question that's alwayslikely it'll have to be the latter. How to make it different?
puzzled me: What's the difference between a memoirWell, that's the hard part. And the part you're going to
and an autobiography? Webster's defines a memoirhave to figure out on your own.
as "a narrative composed from personal experience"As with any genre in today's book market, publishers
and an autobiography as "the biography of a personare more likely to acquire a memoir if its author has a
narrated by himself or herself." (The second definitionplatform, i.e., comes with a built-in marketing plan. While
of "memoir" is "autobiography," indicating just howwriting the book, start a blog discussing the experience
blurry the line is.) I think of a biography as a life story--aor issue about which you're writing. Become affiliated
full life, that is, unofficial "biographies" of Paris Hilton orwith any advocacy organizations, etc., who might help
Justin Timberlake aside. Most memoirs, by contrast,promote your book. It's tough out there if you're not a
don't begin at the author's birth and provide a thoroughcelebrity or an author with a track record. For every
chronological history of a life now in its twilight years.Dave Eggers, a thousand memoirists can't even clear
Memoirs are, of course, written by authors of all ages,the hurdle of finding an agent. This week, publishers
and their narratives can encompass fifty years or onebought memoirs by a Washington Post columnist, Cary
week of experience. The first element necessary to aGrant's daughter, the former head of a record
successful memoir is that experience. Lots of us havecompany and the Air America radio network, and a
led interesting lives, or had unusual experiences. But notwoman with a New York Times bestseller to her
all of those interesting lives and unusual experiencesname. But take heed: another author sold a memoir
are memoir-worthy. At the same time, the life"about a typical divorce transformed by a lyrical yet
experience you want to write about doesn't need tobrutally honest voice and narrative style." That author
be earth-shattering to be the basis of a successfulfigured out how to tell an old story in a new way.
book--if you're a good enough writer. Whether yourAs important as marketing is, the memoir, perhaps
memories should jump from your head onto the pagesmore than any other genre, depends for its success
of a memoir is difficult to judge when you're the oneon one simple thing: writing skill. Too many people
whose life's literary value is in question. If you didn'tmake the mistake of thinking that fascinating
think it was worth writing about, you wouldn't beexperiences make for fascinating reads, no matter
thinking about a memoir in the first place. But it's awho writes about them. If you've never written before,
judgment you must make honestly and objectively iftake some classes. Work on your book in a workshop
you don't want to waste a lot of time writing aor in a writers' group. And if you look in the mirror and
manuscript that will never sell.see someone who doesn't have the writing chops to
So how do you know if your idea is a book in thetell their story right, contract with an experienced
making? Try to gain some distance and look at it as aghostwriter or coauthor to help out. After all, everyone
potential reader. Would you pick such a book up offhas lived a story, but only a select few have both the
the shelf if it were about a total stranger with no otherright tale and the right talent to create a winning book.
claim to fame? Would you read the description on the