| It's likely that all of us have this bad habit to some | | | | you may notice in friends who find many things and |
| extent, and I nominate it for the title of the worst habit | | | | people to blame in their lives.Breaking A Bad |
| one can have. What is it? Fighting reality rather than | | | | HabitBlame the person who chooses to be cruel to |
| accepting and dealing with things the way they are. | | | | you, but you are also to blame if you choose to be |
| Here are some examples, and a few suggestions as | | | | abused repeatedly by spending time with this person. |
| to how to break this habit.Are You Fighting | | | | It's a bit like sticking your hand in a fire repeatedly, |
| Reality?Fighting reality is a subtle habit, expressing itself | | | | hoping it will one day stop being hot. Almost, I say, |
| in everything from blaming others for our problems to | | | | because a person CAN change. However, how often |
| getting angry at traffic, to wishful thinking. How do | | | | do they? Be realistic here, or you are fighting reality as |
| know when you are doing it? Watch for these | | | | surely as when you put your hand into a fire.A person |
| clues.Consider how rarely you complain, or are angry | | | | can wait for his "ship to come in," or can face the fact |
| or annoyed because rocks are hard and water is wet. | | | | that people create most of the "luck" they have in life, |
| Your easy acceptance of the facts of nature is due | | | | and start working toward his goals. I can work for |
| to clearly seeing this is simply the way it is. You have | | | | political change or just complain and wish things were |
| no ideas that rocks should be soft or water dry. In | | | | different. You can watch people succeed, while talking |
| other areas of life, however, you probably do have | | | | about the "reasons" for your failures, or you can see |
| ideas about how things "should be." This is the first clue | | | | what they are doing to succeed and try |
| that you may be "fighting reality."Of course you can | | | | that.Sometimes we don't want to see the truth. To |
| work to make the world a better place, but you don't | | | | really want to see it we may need to look at the futility |
| need to deny or fight reality to do that. I once failed in | | | | of fighting reality. Who is more likely to find happiness in |
| business because I felt that there "shouldn't be" | | | | this world, a man who demands it should be the way |
| regulations and complicated tax systems. I used these | | | | he wants it, or one who accepts things as they are, |
| ideas as excuses for not doing all that I had to do to | | | | changes what he can, and does what he needs to |
| succeed. Entrepreneurs may agree with that | | | | do? Who will more likely succeed, a man who knows |
| laissez-faire viewpoint, but successful ones also | | | | all about how things "should be," or one who sees only |
| accept that things are how they are, and deal with it.A | | | | what is there and deals with it?Do you need motivation |
| great way to excuse ourselves from taking | | | | to change? Start watch complainers and blamers and |
| responsibility, and one of the subtle ways of fighting | | | | those who say "should" and "shouldn't" too often. |
| reality, is to blame. Seeing the role that outside factors | | | | Watch closely, and you'll see how they suffer for their |
| and other people play in our problems is honesty, but | | | | demands on reality. This is a bad habit upon which |
| focusing more on assigning blame than on how to deal | | | | many other bad habits are based, but it can be |
| with the problems is just a bad habit. It's like a child | | | | broken.Steve Gillman has been studying brainpower |
| screaming "I don't want it this way!" thinking that | | | | and related topics for years. |
| complaints will change reality. It isn't very productive, as | | | | |