How to Gain Confidence

ent">you don't believe yourself. Because you have set up a
Most people would say that they were trustworthypattern where you promise yourself things and don't
and reliable. And most people are trustworthy, butdeliver, it becomes second nature to not feel like your
even then, can you remember times when you:word means anything.
- Said you were going to cut down on eating junk foodHow many people say "I'm sticking to the diet this time"
but when someone brought chocolates to the office,knowing that there is a voice in the back of their mind
you had a piece...or threesaying "Yeah right". And this is totally related to
- Said you would make four more sales calls beforeconfidence. Self-Confidence is all about whether you
leaving work but left after only making two.trust yourself to succeed. It's all about having faith in
- Said you wouldn't check your Blackberry for the nextyourself to achieve things. If you hardly ever do what
hour but then couldn't resist having a "quick look"you say you will do, then it's very hard to have faith in
Each of these examples points towards someoneyourself.
who cannot be trusted to keep their word toAction Step
themselves.For the next few days, make a promise to yourself
It may not seem like much when you press that(and keep this one!) that you will only say you'll do
snooze button after promising to yourself to go for asomething if you are ABSOLUTELY sure that you'll do
run on Sunday morning. But in actual fact, each timeit.
you say you'll do something and don't, you are erodingIf you aren't sure if you will do something, then don't
a bit of trust in yourself. You said you would dopromise to do it.
something and you didn't do it.Notice the change in self-esteem you have, when you
If you do this all the time, then it should come as nostart living by this simple rule.
surprise when you make big promises to yourself and