How to Gain Confidence

ent">of the car getting moving from a standing start.
When we feel down, it is easy to get into a spiral ofImagine if the battery was dead and you had to push
doubt and low confidence. If things have not beenthe car to get it started.It might be impossible for you
going well, you might feel that your skills are desertingto push the car to a speed of 50 miles an hour, but by
you. You might lose all confidence in your abilities.pushing it you can get it up to a speed that you can
Unfortunately falling confidence makes performingstart the engine and let it do the work from there.
competently even harder. It’s like a self-fulfillingIt’s the same with your confidence. You just
decline. The less confident you feel, the worse youneed to get yourself started feeling confident and then
perform and so the less confident you feel.it will be easier after that.
Many people, even the most confident, go throughSo how do you start? You need to get some small
times in their life when they get into this kind of rut. Assuccesses under your belt. You need to celebrate
the laws of physics will tell you, getting a car startedsmall things. If you are having trouble getting the big
from being stationary takes a lot more energy thanwins in life, start focusing on the details. Get the details
accelerating when you are already moving.right. And celebrate every time you get the details right.
Trying to build confidence when you are feelingThat happy feeling when you are doing small things
anything but can be difficult. Sadly, when we are inright will start to spread and make improvement that
these situations, we often get well-meaning peoplemuch easier.
telling us “Just be more confident” or “You needOnce you get some momentum going, then you will
to be more confident”. I would if I could!find it easier and easier to build your confidence.
While it may be difficult to start feeling confident in theThe key is to be patient and really concentrate on the
midst of a confidence rut, it is not impossible. What yousmall successes you can achieve. Then build it up
need is the right approach. And the right approachslowly. If you can continue taking small steps in the right
involves taking things slowly. Returning to the exampledirection, you will eventually get there.