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| verbalization | | | | sprinkle in little bad things about that aren't |
| that it's dark and scary. But you don't get a | | | | true."I'm shy." "Girls don't really like me."If comments like |
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| Storytelling, displaying humor, displaying | | | | dependent on her."Baby, you're like the moon and the |
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| Having one woman over to your place and she | | | | sun for me. Without you, there'd be no me."This is |
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