Is It Positive or Negative? You Decide

A while back, I took my boys to the neighborhood pool.immediate smile on my face.I then went to the grocery
They were excited because the pool had just openedstore to pick up some milk, and saw aisle after aisle
for the season. When we got there, I quickly foundfilled with food, supplies, drinks and fresh produce. Now
some chairs near some acquaintances of ours, and ashere was abundance and prosperity! I saw people
the boys swam, we started to chat.About 20 minuteschatting and smiling, and two children happily eating a
went by when I began to notice that everything mymessy chocolate doughnut.I went back to the Post
friend talked about had a negative slant to it. First itOffice and started to chat with the woman in front of
was complaining about a particular teacher at school,me who was mailing a package to her son in Iraq filled
then it was about the lack of time in life in general, andwith things she thought they might need.I logged onto
on and on it went. She said nothing positive . allthe Internet and received a wonderful email from a
negative, complaining about this and that. When shefriend entitled "The Positive Side of Life." I then
got to politics, I decided that it was enough and quicklyreceived an email from an old friend of mine whom I
excused myself and jumped into the pool.As I swamhave known for over 30 years now. It always puts a
around the pool, I couldn't help but hear othersmile on my face when I hear from her.As I was
conversations. Imagine my surprise when I found thatleaving the house to pick up my boys from school, I
they too were mostly negative!!! Curious now, I walkedsaw my neighbor again. So I asked him how he was
over to the soda machine and said, "How are you?" todoing. He turned and looked at me with a big smile on
some other neighbors. Their reply? "Tired. You knowhis face and replied "No worries mate!". As I drove
how it goes." Not exactly negative, but certainly notaway, I flipped on the radio and immediately heard a
positive either.So now I was REALLY curious! Was itsong called "I'm on Top of the World!"That evening, I
just that it was the end of the week and everyoneturned on the evening news, and heard an extremely
was tired and grumpy? I decided to test it, so for thebeautiful story about a woman moving into her first
next few days I really paid attention to everything Ihome - built by the wonderful organization Habitat for
saw and heard to see how much negativity thereHumanity. Then the weather came on and I was told
really was.Let me tell you I didn't have to try verythat bright sunshine would be in our area for the next
hard.First I went to the grocery store. As I waited forfew days. Later that evening, I watched a rerun from
the clerk to tally my groceries, I started chatting withthat great show on ABC called Extreme Makeover
her and soon I was being told a story about when sheHome Edition. In 7 days they completely change a
was in Japan. Since she's a blond, she complained thatneedy families home and life. What an act of
her trip was horrible because all they wanted to dokindness!Now there is a spiritual principle out there that
was touch her hair!That evening I switched on thesays what you put your attention to grows. Certainly
evening news and was presented with 30 minutes ofthe case here!!! I put my attention to all the negative
rape, murder, robberies, drownings, child abductions and"stuff" that I was assaulted with for a few days and it
a story about Martha Stewart. In between theseslammed into me so hard that I wanted to cry from it
heartwarming stores, I listened to commercials aboutall. It got so bad that I saw it everywhere I went. From
weight loss, adult ADD and a new drug that they saidthe grocery store to the post office to my own home.
everyone should take (but had some small sideIt could make a person seriously paranoid!!!!!!! When I
effects like nausea and sometimes death).Alrightyplaced my attention on the positive, it grew too. It was
then!!!After the news, I flipped around and found morelike it had suddenly stopped raining and the warm sun
heartwarming stores on television such as "Law andcame out.So how do you remain positive, healthy and
Order", "ER" and "CSI Miami". All great shows butprosperous in a negative world? Here's what I do.1.
hardly positive. It seems I was surrounded by murder,Surround yourself with positive people. Treat others
rape and the dregs of society - all in primetime! Ilike you want to be treated -- positively! With positive
settled for a "Touched by an Angel" rerun and went toencouragement and thoughts!!!2. Read positive
bed.When I woke up the next morning, I continued toinspirational books3. TURN OFF THE NEWS as much
pay attention. The first thing on my agenda thatas possible.4. Try and avoid newspapers, although you
morning was a visit to the post office. As I drove, Ishould scan the headlines so that you know what's
flipped on the radio to my favorite radio station andgoing on in the world5. Write down all the positive
what do I hear? I hear a woman singing the followingthings that have happened to you in the last month and
lyrics: "Wounds won't seem to heal, the pain is just toopost them where you can see them. "See" your life as
real." I switched to another station.At the post office Ia success!!! Don't "see" your life as a failure!!! Look at all
was greeted at the door by an identity theft poster. Ithe positive things that you've done!!!6. Put a positive
then went to Target to pick up a new bathing suit forinspirational poster over your desk. You can also put a
one of my sons and noticed that they had TV"plus" sign, or the words "stay positive" over your desk
monitors all over the place. As I looked at it, I saw ato remind you to be positive.7. Read some inspirational
story about how to prevent your child from beingbooks like the new one from my friend Connie Domino
abducted.Are you seeing a pattern here? I am notcalled Develop Irresistible Attraction.8. Turn someone
making this up; it really happened.OK, let's try theelse's negative day into a positive and help them
computer. Maybe that's better.After logging on, I took aout!Now please know that I am not telling you to blindly
look at my homepage at MSN and I saw a storyignore the reality of the world. I am telling you that you
about Al-Qaida, another about a woman foundcan see that reality and also see the POSITIVES as
strangled and a weather related story about a nastywell. The world can indeed be a cruel place. Crime,
tornado.And don't forget my email. I had my usualpoverty and illness seem to be everywhere, but the
number of SPAM emails, which generally includesworld can be a beautiful place filled with love, warmth,
sales pitches, porn and various offers about Viagra.compassion and prosperity.Do you see the glass as
Oh, and don't forget the email from Nigeria who wantshalf-full or half-empty?Negative things will happen in the
to wash one million dollars through my checkingworld. They happen to all of us! But look at it this way.
account and wants me to send him the number. OfPositive things will happen as well. Good things will
course he'll give me half.Uh huh. I totally believehappen to you. Joy will find you!It's goes back to the
you.Later that day, I went to get my mail and saw mylaw of physics ...1. Every action causes a reaction2.
neighbor outside doing some yard work. When IWe attract like energySo if we put out negative
stopped to say hello he asked me how I was doing.thoughts and actions and constantly focus on the
So I replied "No worries mate, I am doing really greatnegative, we will ATTRACT negative back to us. It will
today!" (I just love that Australian expression). I reallybe all that we see!! Conversely, if we put out positive
don't think he was expecting me to say that becausethoughts and try our best to see the positive, then we
he stopped what he was doing and looked at me like Iwill attract the positive back.We live in a negative
had just escaped from an insane asylum. I just laughed,world. So be it. I, however, refuse to be negative and
told him I would see him later and went into mywill continue to try and remain positive as much as
house.When did it become politically incorrect to tellpossible. I've had my share of bad times, trust me, I
people something positive??I have to tell you all that bywrote the book on that one. The good news is that I
the end of the second day I was physically feeling sickdon't have to stay that way if I don't choose to. I
and incredibly tired. So tired I went to bed at 9:00 p.m.choose prosperity, love and compassion.I choose to
and asked my husband Ron to put the boys to bed. Ilook at the glass as half full, one day at a
just wanted to lie down and pull the covers way uptime."Gratitude, like faith, is a muscle. The more you use
over my head and forget about it all.So what did I learnit, the stronger it grows, and the more power you have
from this little test? I learned that you can mess upto use it on your behalf. If you do not practice
your mind with this stuff! I felt like I had been draggedgratefulness, its benefaction will go unnoticed, and your
into a negative world filled with greed, fear and hatred.capacity to draw on its gifts will be diminished. To be
A world where you always lack money and nevergrateful is to find blessings in everything. This is the
achieve your life's dreams because you're too fat, toomost powerful attitude to adopt, for there are
thin, too sick, going to be sick, need a job, lost a job,blessings in everything." - Alan CohenKatharine
and on and on it seemed to go.I felt that my brain hadGiovanni has been a meeting/event planner and
been so saturated with negativity that I was in dangerconcierge for over 20 years and has set up five
of becoming physically sick! By the end of the secondsuccessful businesses: Meeting Planning Plus, Triangle
day I was yelling at my kids, bickering with my husbandConcierge, NewRoad Publishing, XPACS and Triangle
and was generally grumpy to everyone.So I had aInternational. She is Triangle Concierge's senior trainer
huge bowl of ice cream (which I am convinced curesand speaker and is the author of their best-selling book
everything), took a hot bath and went to bed. The test"The Concierge Manual" as well as the author of the
was officially over. Two days was more than enough"In-House Concierge Manual". She is also the Chairman
for me.On the third day, I decided to visit the sameof the Board of the International Concierge and Errand
places I had gone during the last two days to seeAssociation. A dynamic public speaker, Katharine has
what positives I could find there. First, I went to the poolbeen a speaker at seminars and conferences around
and sat down in a chair. As I watched, I saw peoplethe country, and has appeared on both radio and
laughing and smiling, and children playing in the pool withtelevision. She is the author of the acclaimed
huge smiles on their face. The sound of happy childreninspirational book "God, is that you?
playing is really one of life's greatest sounds and put an